Friday, 29 November 2013

Are you being an office creep?

Are you being an office creep?

Are you being an office creep?
Are you being an office creep? (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

We had a meeting and the dress code was 'corporate dressing'. I chose to wear a skirt with a matching top.


The moment I walked into the office, everyone kept staring... I became very conscious. Some people said that I looked quite 'hot'. Of course, others said I looked nice. But the fact is, I was made to feel uncomfortable just because I wore a dress," says a young techie, on condition of anonymity.

There is a difference between 'nice' and 'hot', and that's exactly why this young techie was 'okay' with the word 'nice', but was offended by 'hot'. While it is okay to compliment a lady, there is a thin line of etiquette that most men are unaware of. The comments tread into the territory of innuendo and 'sexual harassment' at workplace.

Image consultant Chaitanya CH, says, "Most men are unaware of what can be seen or considered as offensive or sexist or unacceptable by their women colleagues. During corporate etiquette workshops, this is a big problem. While it is easy to teach how to dress at work and how to speak to colleagues, sensitising them about sexual harassment is not that easy, because most men are brought up thinking it is okay to say or do anything."

"If a man wants to compliment a lady, that should be done subtly by politely saying 'you look great' or 'you look awesome' as against 'you look sexy' or 'you look hot'. How a man compliments a woman has to depend on the equation that they share. While someone close may not take offence, others might," Chaitanya adds.

Suneeta Kanga, trainer and mentor, corporate etiquette, says that while the corporate set up is gender-neutral, it does not mean men should stop behaving like 'gentlemen'. "Apart from the correct usage of language and words (no foul words), the physical aspect is important. If there is an office gathering, men can put their hands on the shoulders of their women colleagues for group photographs, but patting or a hit on the shoulders is inappropriate. I often encounter the question of how should a man look at a woman. My advice is always chin up. This depends on the equation shared by the two. It is important for men to learn that not all women will be fine with their way of complimenting," Suneeta explains.

Not acceptable
- Sexy, hot, commenting on body parts.
- No mouthing the 'F' word, no slang.
- Never ask a woman about the previous evening/night and what she did.
- Never discuss other women in a group that includes women.
- Do not stare.
- Hugging or touching women colleagues is a strict 'no'.
- While shaking hands, don't hold it too firmly or with both hands.
- Never comment on what a lady is wearing.

Acceptable 
- Use words like 'great', 'awesome', 'smart, 'well co-ordinated' when complimenting.
- Conversations should revolve around general subjects and nothing too personal or physical.
- A firm handshake is fine.
- One can ask, 'How are you doing today?'.
- Looking at a lady's face and saying, 'you look nice' is fine

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Grow your own kitchen garden

Grow your own kitchen garden
Grow your own kitchen garden
Grow your own kitchen garden

With vegetable prices hitting the roof, now would be a good time to start your own kitchen garden. 


While space is a problem in the city, planting a few vegetables, fruits or just herbs on your kitchen windowsill or in your balcony will not only increase the aesthetic value, but also provide you with healthy and fresh ingredients for your meals. With these simple steps, you can grow your own kitchen garden. 
Plan your site
Opt for the sunniest spot in your house, one where you get at least six hours of sunlight daily, to grow the plants. Ideally, choose a spot that is nearest to your kitchen. 
Choose your veggies
It is best to plant fruits and vegetables that you like to eat and consume on a regular basis. Also, go for veggies that are quick to grow and don't require much space. Salad garden is a good option as lettuce, radish and other greens require lesser maintenance and grow quickly.
Plant herbs, too
Planting herbs in your garden is a good option as their freshly plucked leaves add flavour to your meals. The most popular herbs include curry leaf, basil, thyme, rosemary, mint and parsley.
Select proper containers
While investing in earthen pots is a good option for your plants, you can also recycle and reuse plastic bottles, buckets or bathtubs to grow vegetables.
Take care while planting
You can buy seedlings at nurseries. However, plant them carefully, without harming the tender roots. You can also grow seeds that you might have scooped out of the veggies.
Maintain your garden
Keep a regular check on your garden to prevent breeding of insects. Go for 'companion gardening', like, planting garlic between two tomato plants

Are you a ‘model’ man?

Are you a ‘model’ man?

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  • Think you’ve got what it takes to date a svelte ramp-scorcher? Sonali Velinker Kamat and her team spoke to models at the recently-concluded Signature International Fashion Weekend 2013 to find out what hot girls look for in a man. Time to take notes, boys.. 

First impressions

If you think you notice women’s physical assets while they’re admiring the epic awesomeness of your intellectual depth, perish the thought! Spruce up fellas, this is an equal world: hot women like hot men. Most of the models we spoke to said they first notice a man’s physical attributes — height, looks, muscles (or the lack of them!) and other body parts. A good physique is paramount, though beefy — especially if you don’t have height to match — is unconditionally out. Ukrainian model Anna Yatskiv says she first notices a man’s hands! You know the old wives’ tale; we’ll say no more. While you make a determined effort to keep those digits groomed, hope to meet more models like Hyderabadi hottie Dharmika Rao, who says she first notices a man’s manners and gentleness

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To go fuzz free or not — that’s the question

We got a mixed bag of responses from our models to this one! While most recommend that you don’t grow a jungle on your face (unless you’re George Clooney or Johnny Depp) there are some who find themselves floored by well-groomed but bountiful facial hair. The petite Edna Gonzalez admits that the first thing she notices about a man is his beard! 

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Digging deeper

If you’ve made a kickass first impression, don’t expect to have won your woman over already. The sexiest women expect a man to be kind, chivalrous and… wait for it… honest. Phonies, kindly stay away! The sultry Parvathy Omanakuttan tells us that prospective suitors need to have a sense of humour and be able to make her laugh. This does not include cheesy pickup lines and jokes stolen from your Twitter feed. Sensitivity, intelligence, personality, an adventurous spirit (they aren’t referring to the bar, yet!) and the ability to be yourself, are other must-have traits. Of course, if you’re with a model, a highly coveted trait she’s looking for is self-confidence. Jealous blokes, go turn green elsewhere!



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Short-changed?

Given the reams of paper and film dedicated to the ‘Beauty vs. Geek’ phenomenon, we asked our ramp-scorchers if they’d ever date a shorter man. Of course, you know we’re talking about women who stand at an average of 5 feet 8 inches, sometimes towering at 6 feet! Surprisingly, most of the girls wouldn’t mind if he’s a “nice fellow.” Some of them are even willing to give up their high heels. Then again, some call it like it is! Like Sheela Tiruchi (a statuesque 5’11) who ponders the question and then, very honestly, admits that she won’t!


  • Are you a ‘model’ man?
  • Are you a ‘model’ man?
  • Are you a ‘model’ man?
  • Are you a ‘model’ man?
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Metrosexual manners

Remember gorgeous Daniel from MasterChef Australia’s currently-on-air season? Why would such a pretty boy spend all his screen-time togged out like a super-sweet meringue? Our girls like a well-groomed man, not a boy who dusts his under-eye area with a foundation as pale as sugar! Make-up ace Kapil Bhalla has some advice for men who aren’t sure whether or not to experiment with make-up. Moisturise your face before applying very little concealer or foundation. Always use a shade darker than your own skin tone. Use a matte bronzer to sculpt and shade your features. Use a facial mist to set make-up and to avoid looking made up. Also, do this only for a night event. During the day, go bare. On the face, we mean!